People we like are consistent. No one really likes the moody, temperamental, unpredictable, or plastic person. By plastic I mean mask wearing fake in public and another way in private or with close friends.
We like people with a pleasant face. When people make eye contact with us we perceive them as confident and comfortable. If they smile the comfort seems even deeper.
People who seem interested in us are just likeable. We get this sense of “you’re interested in me” when people remember our name, ask personable questions and remain interested when we talk about ourselves.
We like people who are confident and powerful. Even if we don’t agree we appreciate it when someone has the fortitude to express herself. It is easy to respect someone who does what they enjoy.
When networking be likable by practicing the following:
Make eye contact
Smile often
Remember names (ask: “How do you pronounce that?” “What does your name mean?” “Where does your name come from?” “How would I spell that?”)
Be consistent. Avoid wearing your emotions.
Ask open ended questions about others and their interests
Keep your posture confident
Express your opinions and get comfortable with being candidly honest
Charles (Bill) Carpenter "the Builder" is a nationally recognized speaker and author. He is a Project Management Professional, bahavioral expert, and respected authority in professional communication with more than 8 years experience in adult education at the University level. He is passionate about "building" people. You can learn more about him at www.charlesspeaks.com
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